So! I have been spending a lot of time lately trying to find ways to occupy my time. This past while of not being able to work has been cool and all but HOLY SHIT DO I NEED TO WORK NOW BECAUSE I'M SO BORED! So, I spend an hour or two each day doing paperwork for Paul (we figured out a system whereby he doesn't have to go to work quite as early and just brings his paperwork home and then I do it! Whee! Don't tell anyone!), and I clean and stuff a lot (I have to do some of the icky cleaning still and I can't get motivated, I'm VERY tidy, but not very clean), I also do some crocheting and other crafts.
At Walmart this weekend I told Paul that I was spending $10 on crafts and that was that. I got some good stuff; 3 papier mache boxes (with topses) and two colours of paint and brushes to spiff them up. And I also got this little kit which teaches you how to spool knit and then make flowers out of the tubes that you make. Neat! All that for $9, thank you very much. I will post pictures of my spool knit flowers later (not that they're so spectacular, the kit is for ages 6 and up).
I very badly want to build up a craft box down here. Its so much easier when you have a ready made supply of, well, supplies. I would really like to make my own centrepieces/candles and whatever else I can for our wedding, that would be a good project and also save us money. I also spent some time today looking up invitations online and ordering catalogues and stuff, but that kind of brings me to my two dilemmas, please help!
1) I want to work on planning the wedding already but I'm so scared to do it cause what if I'm rejected. I can't see why I would, but, its so scary to know that the US gov't holds my future in their hands. What if I do get rejected, what would we do? Oh gahd!
2) So, my first wedding was nearly perfect (except for that asshole I married). I had so many people tell me that it was the most beautiful and elegant wedding that they had attended. So, like how much can I replicate from that wedding? For example, I want the same colour (dark, rose red), an evening wedding lit by candles again. Is this kind of thing tacky? I won't wear the same dress or anything and the environment of the wedding will be very different. Opinions?
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Hmmmm. I'm not creative enough for fancy wedding plans, or even simple. Mine was an unreal simple affair with a non-denominational minister in a little chapel in the middle of nowhere. I spent more on flowers than I did on my dress. The decisions are yours and Paul's to make. Do what will make the both of you happy, and the hell with anyone that says something about it!
Keep the elements you loved most. I don't think anyone will hold the colour or the candles against you. "Oh Jenn, this is the same colour as your last wedding!". No one with any sense, anyway. Good job on the crafts-on-a-dime :) P.S. Plan your wedding! If you got rejected, would you not find some way to be together? I know how you love to plan! Just don't commit any money for something you can't keep (reservations, plane tickets...)
First, don't listen to anyone but your own heart (oh, maybe Paul a little). Having said that ...
I would not try to duplicate a previous wedding. I would not want to parallel my current new life with the one I left behind. As well, it could cause conflict ("Well, that's great you did it that way last time - do you want the same guy too?").
You are not trying to recreate the magic. You are creating new magic. I believe that any wedding can be perfect - as long as it ends with the two of you together forever in love.
And remember, don't listen to me.
Jenn, your thoughts, ideas and plans are the most important. Along with that, your happiness. Do what your heart tells you to do in regards to your plans to marry Paul. Just, please, talk to him about one specific item for your wedding -- could Sally stand up as his best man?
Okay! Wow, thanks for all the input. First of all, yes, I agree that any wedding with Paul would be great and we certainly don't want to go crazy. But, by the same token, I do want this to be something that I remember forever as the official beginning to our life together. And, as all of you said, you're right, I'll do what WE want (okay what -I- want cause Paul doesn't give a damn) to do to make our day the most special that it can be. I just wish that I handn't wasted all of my good ideas on my practice marriage :)
Laz, what you said was a very good point as well. We would do pretty much anything to be together, so something will work out for us (I type this not believing it fully) so I will just plan my little heart out!
Also, Reba, you and I may be the most diametrically opposite people on earth (so why do I like you so much?). Love stuff is my favourite in the world. I regularly cry just thinking about our wedding or picking out a card for Paul or whatever. I sort of envy you in that way... I would kind of like to be a little less, well, me. Incidentally, does that mean that you and R. never plan to marry, but remain common law partners? Its none of my business, but I'm fascinated by peoples views on marriage vs common law vs just dating forever.
And, um, I'll ask Paul about Sally...
I know I'm late on all my $0.02 thingies, but in this case, might I recommend the corn dogs. I know Paul, and myself would LOVE them. Also, if you do get rejected by the US, I'm sure Canada would welcome Paul with open arms...Yes, I was trying to be a little funny, without being mean to Paul, and/or Canada. I love you both, and Go Canuks! Eh!....
Brother2
Paul says 'no dice!' on the Sally thing ;)
Love you too, Brother2 *smooch*
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